Amy struggles with multiple chronic illnesses (including EDS), chronic pain, complex trauma, disability, and ADHD. Reid also manages a mood disorder and ADHD. We've both tried every effing productivity and wellness app, and most just made us feel worse about ourselves.

Especially the ones where we had to take care of a virtual bird or plant.

Every single app assumed we'd have the same energy and capacity day to day. That just wasn't our reality.

We can't always predict a flare up or depressive episode or hyperfocus spell. (Or a president starting a war without congressional approval and having families detained and deported for no reason.)

And because we can't predict how each day is going to unfold, we found ourselves feeling immense guilt and shame when something overwhelmed us. That always led to a spiral that was hard to climb out of.

Then we realized we were watching the people we love go through the same s#!%. Different conditions, different lives... but the same cycle of pushing too hard, crashing, and drowning in undeserved shame.

We started tracking things on paper, just for ourselves, and spent years nerding out on neuroscience and harm reduction and behavioral psych. We discovered that when you stop pressuring yourself, life gets easier.